Female sexuality

Female Sexuality, or rather the ability to exert it for "empowerment", is in truth a temporal facade of ego-boosting power or authority. It is my personal believe that society's perpetual over emphasis on female sexuality weakens rather than strengthens women, because in inculcates into us and consequently, our society, that a woman's ascend to power lies in her ability to unleash her sexuality upon helpless men who think with their testicles and not their brains. This mentality drills into women who won the genetic lottery, a false sense of invincibility as well as sparks off an "arms race" among females, with women competing and comparing, the number of guys who buy them a drink in a club, for example. For a variety of reasons, this would be detrimental to both females and males alike.

First, the purported benefits of propelling sexuality are merely temporal and may be a curse rather than a blessing. Conventional wisdoms suggest that beautiful women (or people in general) have it better. Statistics reveal that when it comes to selecting employees, employers consider first impressions, of which, propelling female sexuality in a fairly dignified manner helps greatly. Regardless of whether it is the entertainment industry or the sporting industry, it appears that it is beauty and sex that sells. The ravishing tennis "star" gets more endorsements vis-à-vis the plain-looking medalist. Taiwan Pop Princess Jolin Tsai (see above picture) wins the coveted Most Favorite Female Artist and the Best Female Artist awards at the 18th Annual Golden Melody Awards 2007. It is no coincidence that she was also voted the number 1 in Maxim's Hot 100, after her twin peaks "grew" from its humble background to the shocking 'G' cup presently. Success, then, it seems lies not so much on one's actual sporting or singing ability, but rather, how much sex appeal, how marketable you are. After all, sex sells. However, just as it was conventional wisdom in the past that the world was flat, the notion that propelling sexuality reaps success for the modern day warrior-princesses eager to conquer the world is fatally flawed. For one, the very same free-market force of capitalism that sweeps sensual, nubile young ladies to the top of the corporate ladder will also be responsible for their eventual downfall. Indeed as Mr. Francois Hollande (leader of the Socialist Party, France) said: "Queens may have their moment but the king will always return to take power." Building a career and success upon the foundations of your sexuality is no better than building a gleaming multi-million skyscraper on sand - its rise will be as spectacular as its collapse. Take for example an extract of an article from The Straits Times:

Ladies Night - but only if you're under 36

IN A black-lace top, a grey Gucci beret and tight jeans, Ms Violet Lim was dressed to party.
But at the entrance of Powerhouse in mega-club St James Power Station, a bouncer asked for her identity card, then denied her the five free-drinks vouchers typically offered to women on Ladies' Night.

The reason? She was 'above 35'.

Last Wednesday night, the 55-year-old dating consultant, a mother of two grown children, was told she had to pay for her drinks.

By then, she was so insulted, she left.

'They are too much,' she said. 'My girlfriends and I have been going to Ladies Night at various clubs for many years and we never had problems getting free drinks.'

The idea of Ladies Night at clubs works on the belief that the promise of free or discounted drinks for women will draw them in, and they in turn will attract men.

Being an adult woman is generally enough to qualify for the privilege - age notwithstanding.

But Mr Andrew Ing, chief operating officer of St James Power Station, said the club's coupons only extend to women 'who fit our target profile' - that is, 'young and trendy'.

'It's to protect the interests of our existing clientele,' he explained.

Two weeks ago, Ms Lim also failed to get the coupons, despite being dressed youthfully in a fitted jacket and trendy black slacks.

She was handed spa vouchers instead.

Similarly snubbed - and annoyed - was 36-year-old nurse Geraldine Lee, who is just one year over the Powerhouse age limit.

'It's like telling you you're old and won't attract guys, so go somewhere else,' said Ms Lee, who was at the club for the first time last Wednesday.

Even so, Mr Ing cited the club's right to turn away customers, and its right to give or refuse Ladies' Night privileges.

'Door policies have always been controversial because they can never be in black and white,' he said.

..............................American investment banker Jason Timothy, 25, said: 'I just don't think a 55-year-old woman would create a great atmosphere to attract men.'


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But that’s not all. An over-emphasis on female sexuality by society will contort people's perception of women and their achievements will be undermined and swept away and written off as just the result of their beauty and nothing more. Female talk-hosts on the ESPN shows are perceived to be there as just eye-candy. People do not even bother about the possible hours these women spend reading and researching into tactics of various football teams etc. Sportswomen tend to be described by sport commenders differently as compared to sportsmen, with emphasis on looks rather than performance, undermining the years of back-breaking physical conditioning these female athletics put in to compete at the highest level. Thus female sexuality not only provides fleeting glory but eternal obscurity, it also erodes and diminish any legitimate virtues such as perseverance, emotional-intelligence etc, that many women posses through their own efforts, independent of their physical endowment.

The next time you put on your M.A.C makeup, place that false eyelashes and don Triumph's Maxi misers push up bras, remember that the only one you are deceiving is yourself, because if love, fame and power are endorsements and testimonials of value, then "value" that hinges on sexuality expires once you are 36.....

JY